🍬 Sugary Scoop: The Quagmire of "We should meet up..."

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Welcome to the Sugary Newsletter by yours truly.  🎉 😊

🍬The Scoop 🍬

• WHAT’S NEW?

• THE SUGARY EFFECT

• PAST EVENTS

• UPCOMING EVENTS (so far)

• AND DON’T SAY I DIDN’T TELL YOU ABOUT…

• ARTIST SPOTLIGHT

WHAT’S NEW?

Do You Want To Know About More Events?

As you’re obviously aware, our newsletters goes out twice per month.  However, in my conversations with members of the community, many have expressed the fact that sometimes you glance at the event section with an intent to RSVP and then, well, life happens and you forget to do so. 

I’ve been told that many of you wish there was a way to have a more consistent reminder of what’s happening in the Sugary community.

I get it.

So…I’ve been chatting with DK about possibly introducing a new focused email that gets sent out on weeks we don’t have a newsletter strictly focused on a summary of our events, AS WELL AS events that we don’t necessarily have an involvement in but we endorse and support that are organized by members of the Sugary community and share the same values we do.

For example: 

Mar. 5th @ 6:30pm (Midtown) - Our dear friend Rita Vinnik is hosting an amazing event just in time for Women’s History Month with a comedy show featuring some of the best and brightest up and coming female comedic talent. The In Bed by 9 Comedy Show…The short and early show you've always wished existed is finally here! _{(Social Battery Level: LOW - MEDIUM Extrovert - Crowd Size 30-50 but you can keep to yourself})

Tickets can be purchased in the Upcoming Events section below.

So basically, I’m putting it out there in the form of a simple poll below:

THE SUGARY EFFECT

On Relationships (Part 3) The Quagmire of, “We should meet up…”

I ran a mini-experiment over the last couple of weeks in which I presented myself with a simple question:

I used to say I can’t tell you how many times someone has asked to meetup or has agreed that we should meet-up, and the resulting date, time and place never transpired. But now I can…

…about ~90%

This is by no means a scientific study obviously, but it is a sobering reality that I experienced.

I’m typically hawkish when it comes to follow-up. I’ll stop just short of stalking you to make sure if we say we’re gonna meet-up, that we actually do. But I’m not gonna lie, it’s an exhausting endeavor especially when it’s one sided. (please don’t take that to mean I’m perfect either. I assure you I’m not, but I think it’s safe to say I’m above average in this regard)

How do we meet in the middle on this point?

If we’re all failing collectively at this high of a rate, I can only wonder how much overall strain this places on the act of maintaining relationships as a whole especially in this a.d.d. world we live in.

It’s just fascinating to ponder on the larger implications of this. What it tells me is that the reality of our day-to-day is fraught with so many distractions that if we don’t improve on the practice of making concrete plans, 9 out of 10 times it just doesn’t come to pass.

Think about all those missed connections and intentions falling by the wayside served with a complement of possible resentment, depression and worst of all accepted indifference…

Fortunately, there are ways to mitigate this issue that have worked for me and could be helpful to you:

1. Carpe Momentum - Momentum is a real thing and so is the moment itself. When there is a mutual interest to link up, seize that exact moment. Don’t take care of it later…you likely won’t. Not because of anything other than you’re gonna get distracted.

2. Put a Pin in It - Don’t miss an opportunity to get something on the calendar. It’s tangible. Ask for it, send a calendar invite and your meetup becomes that much more real. While you might not yet have a location set, see if you can at least lock in a date and time and in lieu of that, at the very least a date or series of dates. Be a bit persistent about this point.

3. A Quick Glance - Review your correspondence at the end of the day - It shouldn’t take long, but it’ll really help make sure you haven’t inadvertently missed a follow-up in your end.

4. To-Do…but perhaps To-See? - Create a simple note in your phone called “To See” and list down the people you intend to link with (preferably in person). Make this a running list and followup at the end of the week. 2-3 times should be enough per person on the list.

Now this does not guarantee a favorable outcome. However, it greatly increases the likelihood. If we all become more conscious about follow-up and follow-through, we’ll achieve greater satisfaction in the relationships we want to build.

The road to hell may be paved with good intentions, but the road to relationships is paved with good follow-up and follow through.

PAST EVENTS

Sake & Sounds - Feb 22nd - Nearly 70 of you came out to enjoy a rare selection of handpicked sakes while enjoying the tunes of DJ Marrow as he spun a selection of tunes that made sure the vibe was on point that night!

The Lemaitre Secret NYC Show - 🍬 ¡Sugar Rush Event🍬 The famed duo Lemaitre came from LA to preview a set they plan to take on the road on tour in 2024 and I was given the privilege of hosting a private intimate salon in the round for them in Fidi. A total of about 80 people attended, many from the close circles of the Sugary community to experience this once in a lifetime moment. The energy was palpable!

UPCOMING EVENTS (so far)

Mar. 5th @ 6:30pm (Midtown) - Our dear friend Rita Vinnik is hosting an amazing event just in time for Women’s History Month with a comedy show featuring some of the best and brightest up and coming female comedic talent. The In Bed by 9 Comedy Show…The short and early show you've always wished existed is finally here! _{(Social Battery Level: LOW - MEDIUM Extrovert - Crowd Size 30-50 but you can keep to yourself})

Tickets can be purchased HERE.

Mar. 10th @ 6:30 (Chinatown) - The Oscars Viewing Party - Roll out the red carpet! Hollywood’s biggest night is in full effect as we celebrate this year’s nominees for excellence in film making. _{(Social Battery Level: HIGH Extrovert - Crowd Size 50-70)}

March 29th @ 7pm (Herald Square) - March Madness Viewing Party - The craze is in full effect! Join us for an intense night of amazing bar food, refreshing beer and cinderella action as your favorite collegiate teams participate in the most hotly contested competition in all of college basketball (and yes I’m including the NBA in the future). _{(Social Battery Level: HIGH EXTROVERT 30-40 people in a loud fan filled bar)}

Mar. 27th @ 7pm (Flatiron) - Art Bath Fundraiser - Art Bath and I will be co-hosting it’s Spring Fundraiser to support it’s 2024 programming and it’s gonna be an incredible and elegant evening of marquee performances hosted in arguably one of the most impressive homes in Manhattan. _{(Social Battery Level: VERY HIGH Extrovert - Crowd Size 100-125)}

_{(Space is very limited for each of these events so if you’d like to attend to any of these events, please hit the RSVP button below sooner than later!)}

AND DON’T SAY I DIDN’T TELL YOU ABOUT…

SUPPER by Moosh

When I think about a home cooked meal, it’s not just about the food itself…it’s about the care and thought behind preparing it, the history/culture that governs its ingredients/cooking practices and the inspiration of nostalgia it is sure to draw.

Now what if these same points were presented with authenticity paired with an artisan vision?

Enter SUPPER by Moosh. 

This dinner series is the labor of love of master chef Behzad Jamshidi.  

To feature this series, Behzad has literally transformed his home into a rapturous intimate dining experience that seats no more than 12 people per evening.

You won’t find gaudy accolades hanging on the walls or over the top  fancy tableware accouterments.  What you will find is quality around every nook and cranny, warm vinyl spinning and the distinct smell of fresh barbari bread baked into a pristine welcome for every guest.

Indeed Behzad’s culinary background is fine dining steeped in the rich traditions of his Iranian heritage, yet Behzad is a worldly student of his craft with the passport stamps to prove it.  Years of study and travel to virtually every corner of the world translates into inspired dishes fusing techniques and ingredients from distant lands and cultures with dexterous yet measured discipline.

It is truly a rare moment when one gets to enjoy such a sublime culinary experience. Having attended one myself, I can tell you that this meal isn’t one you’ll soon forget.

Tickets sell out fast so make sure you embrace the SUPPER experience today.

You can book your SUPPER HERE.

For the Sugary Community, use code SUPPERXP to receive a special gift at the conclusion of your dining journey.

ARTIST SPOTLIGHT

Lamont Landers

This native son of Alabama spent his early years immersing himself in the tunes of Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, Sly & the Family Stone and so many other architects from our history’s southern sonic canon.

What has resulted is a deeply soulful voice summoned from within an unassuming frame that is incontestably stirring and harkens back to the golden age of music while conjuring up comparisons to bardic contemporaries such as Allen Stone.

With a massive TikTok following among them being yours truly and how I initially discovered Lamont) and enthusiastic fans such as Snoop Dog and Questlove, Lamont is well on his journey to discover his independent voice beyond the legendary covers that have thus far turned every ear his sound has graced.

I’m truly excited to stay tuned to Lamont’s continuing journey because a win here is a win for music and my nostalgic sentiments are ALL about it.

Hit the Road Jack (most popular song)

Love & Happiness (lesser known song)

Piece of Me (newest song)

Support the Empathy Project by purchasing any of the items from the collection. Be a part of a unique initiative that empowers seven diverse artists to create one-of-a-kind empathy-inspired t-shirts. These shirts serve as iconography tied to our identity, promoting compassion-driven societal impact. 

Each artist picked a 501(c)3 charity of their choice to donate a portion of the sales of their t-shirt design. Your purchase also empowers voices, amplifies the message of empathy, supports charities, and elevates storytelling within our communities, all while building a network for compassion-driven societal change. Join us in making a lasting impact through art and empathy.

You can check out and purchase the 7 different empathy tees HERE

Thank you for taking the time to read to the end!

I hope you found something inspiring and meaningful in my content and until next time, explore the possibilities of NYC.

-Sugary

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